Sunday, April 16, 2017
update
been a while since i posted pics of the kids...
boyer boys
boyer cousins
janik cousins (minus ben)
boyer boys
boyer cousins
janik cousins (minus ben)
Friday, April 7, 2017
control
pretty sure i like to be in control
however much like the chicken and the egg i am not sure which came first
does my anxiety make me like control or does lack of control lead to anxiety
regardless i know the two have a symbiotic relationship
they feed off each other
when i have lack of control or perhaps a perceived lack of control, my anxiety runs high
when my anxiety runs high, i work to control anything i can
so needless to say vacation is hard for me. i work hard to relax. i work hard to enjoy. i work hard to create a sense of control so i can enjoy but make it not seem too controlled.
this particular vacation was extra hard. large busy city. no prior knowledge, public transportation. all are hard for me.
public transportation means 0 control..... you can have pukers and get stuck on a plane, train or automobile!
and damnit--is my control extra out of control because my dad in law has cancer and there is zero control for that?!?!?! puke.... should not be a big deal. cancer. a big deal.
luke is so my little boy.
tonight josh's plane was cancelled (he flew from dc to boston for work when we flew from dc to home). right before bed, he started getting crazy....doing sit ups, push ups, telling me he's fat, etc.
we did a tiny bit of writing, a tiny bit of mindfulness and then finally used color to talk about the emotion. he sees dark blue (sad) and bright orange (angry). we talked about that could it be okay to have blue...and orange....and any other color? yes! our emotions make us who we are and it is okay to feel all of them. the outcomes of our writing...... he felt: nervous (about grandpa's cancer), scared of the basement (and that someone is stalking him), mad and sad (daddy's plane was cancelled so he won't be home tonight), wanting to be with me, not self confident because he has all of the emotions, disappointed because he has all of the emotions. 1. WAHOOOOOO he shared all of that with me 2. WAHOOO i was able to tell him that is okay to have all of the feelings and so happy we discuss everything 3. we talked about control.
perhaps luke also is searching for control.....
you/me/we have to be okay with not being okay.
however much like the chicken and the egg i am not sure which came first
does my anxiety make me like control or does lack of control lead to anxiety
regardless i know the two have a symbiotic relationship
they feed off each other
when i have lack of control or perhaps a perceived lack of control, my anxiety runs high
when my anxiety runs high, i work to control anything i can
so needless to say vacation is hard for me. i work hard to relax. i work hard to enjoy. i work hard to create a sense of control so i can enjoy but make it not seem too controlled.
this particular vacation was extra hard. large busy city. no prior knowledge, public transportation. all are hard for me.
public transportation means 0 control..... you can have pukers and get stuck on a plane, train or automobile!
and damnit--is my control extra out of control because my dad in law has cancer and there is zero control for that?!?!?! puke.... should not be a big deal. cancer. a big deal.
luke is so my little boy.
tonight josh's plane was cancelled (he flew from dc to boston for work when we flew from dc to home). right before bed, he started getting crazy....doing sit ups, push ups, telling me he's fat, etc.
we did a tiny bit of writing, a tiny bit of mindfulness and then finally used color to talk about the emotion. he sees dark blue (sad) and bright orange (angry). we talked about that could it be okay to have blue...and orange....and any other color? yes! our emotions make us who we are and it is okay to feel all of them. the outcomes of our writing...... he felt: nervous (about grandpa's cancer), scared of the basement (and that someone is stalking him), mad and sad (daddy's plane was cancelled so he won't be home tonight), wanting to be with me, not self confident because he has all of the emotions, disappointed because he has all of the emotions. 1. WAHOOOOOO he shared all of that with me 2. WAHOOO i was able to tell him that is okay to have all of the feelings and so happy we discuss everything 3. we talked about control.
perhaps luke also is searching for control.....
you/me/we have to be okay with not being okay.
Thursday, April 6, 2017
and............ home
lots of flights cancelled
people stranded
flights full
we were lucky
three seats together
josh safely on his way
boys and i landed
home we made
people stranded
flights full
we were lucky
three seats together
josh safely on his way
boys and i landed
home we made
Wednesday, April 5, 2017
another full day
tuesday was no different--we filled another day with a lot of fun, knowledge, walking and family time :)
we took the metro the the end, and a short uber ride over to the smithsonian air and space museum near dulles airport! oh my gosh! i hear the one "in town" is amazing but the one there was SPECTACULAR! we got to see the space shuttle discovery. absolutely amazing. add to it that we watched hidden figures before going--and ahhhhhhhh talk about connections! that prior knowledge was a lovely gem. there were a bazillion airplanes, missiles, air crafts, helicopters, etc. i "flew" an airplane while luke was my gunner (josh flew/jack gunner), the boys each landed the space shuttle and we found the only mcdonalds :) (i swear.... no mcds anywhere in the city--kind of nice!)
another short uber ride and long metro ride back to the city--where we got off at federal triangle and toured the museum of american history. oh that was one of my faves. i loved the first ladies exhibit! fabulous dresses on display!!!!!!! boys were about museumed out so we moved through pretty quickly--president display, first ladies, travel in the us, etc.
dinner at ollies trolley just a few blocks away--homemade burgers, fries, and tea. funky eclectic surroundings and ONLY TAKE CASH but there were two atms in the restaurant.
on the walk back from the rosslyn metro, the boys ran into a friend they made at the pool the night before (max from va, who had moved to va from chicago). lots of talking--it was fun to watch. they made plans to meet up at the pool again so i t took them down for a swim. i sat with the moms (multiple families--cousins, sister in laws and brothers plus grandma) and it was a moment of normalcy :)
off today (wednesday) to our trip home. fingers crossed it goes well. we head to michigan and josh heads to boston for work.
we took the metro the the end, and a short uber ride over to the smithsonian air and space museum near dulles airport! oh my gosh! i hear the one "in town" is amazing but the one there was SPECTACULAR! we got to see the space shuttle discovery. absolutely amazing. add to it that we watched hidden figures before going--and ahhhhhhhh talk about connections! that prior knowledge was a lovely gem. there were a bazillion airplanes, missiles, air crafts, helicopters, etc. i "flew" an airplane while luke was my gunner (josh flew/jack gunner), the boys each landed the space shuttle and we found the only mcdonalds :) (i swear.... no mcds anywhere in the city--kind of nice!)
another short uber ride and long metro ride back to the city--where we got off at federal triangle and toured the museum of american history. oh that was one of my faves. i loved the first ladies exhibit! fabulous dresses on display!!!!!!! boys were about museumed out so we moved through pretty quickly--president display, first ladies, travel in the us, etc.
dinner at ollies trolley just a few blocks away--homemade burgers, fries, and tea. funky eclectic surroundings and ONLY TAKE CASH but there were two atms in the restaurant.
on the walk back from the rosslyn metro, the boys ran into a friend they made at the pool the night before (max from va, who had moved to va from chicago). lots of talking--it was fun to watch. they made plans to meet up at the pool again so i t took them down for a swim. i sat with the moms (multiple families--cousins, sister in laws and brothers plus grandma) and it was a moment of normalcy :)
off today (wednesday) to our trip home. fingers crossed it goes well. we head to michigan and josh heads to boston for work.
Monday, April 3, 2017
monday
breakfast at panera
metro ride
spy museum
walk
lunch at hard rock cafe
walk
museum of natural history
metro and walk
dinner and bowling at pinstripes
walked to hotel
resting, feet up.
lessons of dc
if we turn left out of the marriot (rosslyn) hotel, and cross a really long bridge you get to georgetown. if you go straight, then left it is a MUCH longer walk to georgetown lol
georgetown is gorgeous! pinstripes was an incredibly tasty, beautiful, classy restaurant and bowling alley! most expensive games we've ever bowled! food was good though, and it was a fun experience!
if you are afraid of heights, stay out of rosslyn metro. the escalator looks like you are heading up to heaven or down to hell. super crazy tall.
metro..... ahhh that's led to some "deep thoughts" with tjb. how in the world does anyone get an animal to the vet? is this your primary mode to get to the doc if you or your child is sick? the suicide (call...we can talk) signs are plastered by the entry every every tunnel right at the edge--what a great reminder for those in need. a sad reminder for me. i live in a pretty quiet naive world. the blue line (or maybe orange) has the most bizarre ads. why does every car advertise the period panties ON EVERY SINGLE WALL????? the metro has been affordable but a weird experience for me.
president--yes we saw the white house. yes we saw those who oppose our new president. i've told the boys that we keep our thoughts to ourselves. regardless of what we feel or think, we support the country we live in. and with that said it was super cool to see some roads shut down in georgetown. our best guess is they were blocking routes for president trump to get back to the white house! secret service, dc police, oh my! speaking of georgetown again.... you can get to the white house walking in a fairly "short" amount of time.
get tickets ahead of time--WAY ahead of time--if you want for sure to see the holocaust museum! i tried to get "day of" tickets two mornings and by 6:00 am when they went on for sale, they were sold out. bummed around that.
we also hem hawed too long about the peterson house, ford theatre museum, etc and therefore did not get tickets. another one i would have planned to do better.
getting to the spy museum first thing in the am was perfect!
not going to a smithsonian on a sunday seemed to be in our best interest. we went monday to natural history and while it was busy, no crazy lines like sunday (we saw when we passed them)
did i mention we used our metro cards a lot?!?!? a lot. unlimited "short" ride for 7 days.
oh and the marriot did not have breakfast "free" BUT a panera was in the rosslyn metro (just 2 blocks up) AND a rite aid was there. thinking of shopping, also a target .5 mile away (according to josh) and i saw dsw, tj maxx and other shops in georgetown!
papa johns will deliver to the hotel. bonus for dinner!
a pool was a nice perk since we are not nightlife people with two kids--we used the pool and netflix (on the hotel tv--super nice option). josh wishes we had bought a google chrome cast to get new movies but we used his phone and youtube to get hidden figures last night and that worked quite well.
jack said don't take the metro at 8:30 because it was super busy (commuters) on monday.
jack said don't ride if there is a baseball game--busy.
wear amazingly comfortable shoes. it does not matter if you plan to walk or not, you will walk.
i should have brought a small backpack purely for water. if i did it again, i'd grab water at rite aide the first day and keep it in the room. then throw it in backpack. most museums let you take water.
oh and if you are at rosslyn metro, best way to get to holiday inn or marriot is to get out on the "main street" side--not the side panera's outside door opens up on. you just have to turn right, and bam to the hotel you go :)
georgetown is gorgeous! pinstripes was an incredibly tasty, beautiful, classy restaurant and bowling alley! most expensive games we've ever bowled! food was good though, and it was a fun experience!
if you are afraid of heights, stay out of rosslyn metro. the escalator looks like you are heading up to heaven or down to hell. super crazy tall.
metro..... ahhh that's led to some "deep thoughts" with tjb. how in the world does anyone get an animal to the vet? is this your primary mode to get to the doc if you or your child is sick? the suicide (call...we can talk) signs are plastered by the entry every every tunnel right at the edge--what a great reminder for those in need. a sad reminder for me. i live in a pretty quiet naive world. the blue line (or maybe orange) has the most bizarre ads. why does every car advertise the period panties ON EVERY SINGLE WALL????? the metro has been affordable but a weird experience for me.
president--yes we saw the white house. yes we saw those who oppose our new president. i've told the boys that we keep our thoughts to ourselves. regardless of what we feel or think, we support the country we live in. and with that said it was super cool to see some roads shut down in georgetown. our best guess is they were blocking routes for president trump to get back to the white house! secret service, dc police, oh my! speaking of georgetown again.... you can get to the white house walking in a fairly "short" amount of time.
get tickets ahead of time--WAY ahead of time--if you want for sure to see the holocaust museum! i tried to get "day of" tickets two mornings and by 6:00 am when they went on for sale, they were sold out. bummed around that.
we also hem hawed too long about the peterson house, ford theatre museum, etc and therefore did not get tickets. another one i would have planned to do better.
getting to the spy museum first thing in the am was perfect!
not going to a smithsonian on a sunday seemed to be in our best interest. we went monday to natural history and while it was busy, no crazy lines like sunday (we saw when we passed them)
did i mention we used our metro cards a lot?!?!? a lot. unlimited "short" ride for 7 days.
oh and the marriot did not have breakfast "free" BUT a panera was in the rosslyn metro (just 2 blocks up) AND a rite aid was there. thinking of shopping, also a target .5 mile away (according to josh) and i saw dsw, tj maxx and other shops in georgetown!
papa johns will deliver to the hotel. bonus for dinner!
a pool was a nice perk since we are not nightlife people with two kids--we used the pool and netflix (on the hotel tv--super nice option). josh wishes we had bought a google chrome cast to get new movies but we used his phone and youtube to get hidden figures last night and that worked quite well.
jack said don't take the metro at 8:30 because it was super busy (commuters) on monday.
jack said don't ride if there is a baseball game--busy.
wear amazingly comfortable shoes. it does not matter if you plan to walk or not, you will walk.
i should have brought a small backpack purely for water. if i did it again, i'd grab water at rite aide the first day and keep it in the room. then throw it in backpack. most museums let you take water.
oh and if you are at rosslyn metro, best way to get to holiday inn or marriot is to get out on the "main street" side--not the side panera's outside door opens up on. you just have to turn right, and bam to the hotel you go :)
Sunday, April 2, 2017
so far...
arrived midnight friday night and caught the shuttle to the hotel--hampton by the airport
saturday we took metro to the keybridge marriot and left our luggage for storage
took off across the street--literally--to roosevelt island. totally should have figured out if there was a bridge out across the other side but instead took the long route along. tdr island was awesome--isolated--beautiful. huge tdr memorial! lots of walking later. hit old glory bbq in georgetown! YUMMY! from there walked to see abe lincoln, and reflecting pool. then back to hotel on an uber. checked in and headed to a mls game. UHMAZING!!!!
sunday...tried to get tickets to holocaust museum.... no luck. tried to get tickets to peterson house/ford museum. no luck. headed to arlington cemetery. caught changing of the guards, explored and LOVED THE TOUR Of the ROBERT E LEE House. total fluke we caught it and it was the highlight of my day :) we took metro back to BTS--burgers, taps and shake. best. burgers. ever. yummy!! headed out to see the white house...... saw it. kept walking...... saw lots of gorgeous buildings, the treasury, etc. walked to the capital. then metro tide back to hotel :)
we are currently sitting in the hotel. feet up. enjoying pirates of the carribean and minions. pool soon!
saturday we took metro to the keybridge marriot and left our luggage for storage
took off across the street--literally--to roosevelt island. totally should have figured out if there was a bridge out across the other side but instead took the long route along. tdr island was awesome--isolated--beautiful. huge tdr memorial! lots of walking later. hit old glory bbq in georgetown! YUMMY! from there walked to see abe lincoln, and reflecting pool. then back to hotel on an uber. checked in and headed to a mls game. UHMAZING!!!!
sunday...tried to get tickets to holocaust museum.... no luck. tried to get tickets to peterson house/ford museum. no luck. headed to arlington cemetery. caught changing of the guards, explored and LOVED THE TOUR Of the ROBERT E LEE House. total fluke we caught it and it was the highlight of my day :) we took metro back to BTS--burgers, taps and shake. best. burgers. ever. yummy!! headed out to see the white house...... saw it. kept walking...... saw lots of gorgeous buildings, the treasury, etc. walked to the capital. then metro tide back to hotel :)
we are currently sitting in the hotel. feet up. enjoying pirates of the carribean and minions. pool soon!
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